It being Valentines Season and all, I’ve been thinking alot about what is Romance and love, and esp God’s Love and what God says is love.
I don’t know how many of you married or date a manly man kind of man. But I sure did! Makes me feel so much like a girl, and I love that! But, being the manly man that he is, the whole displays of affection and ‘romance’ stuff is just not his thing! Valentines Day is just another day to him, just like his birthday and Christmas, they are just days! lol 😀 not to me!!
My mom LOVES surprises and every single holiday or event or reason for a party and special stuff, my mom was ALL over that! heh! I come by it honestly! Well, it dosn’t take a brainiac to figure out that marrying someone as ‘unromantic’ as my husband was going to be a struggle for me. But before you huff and feel bad for me, hear me out!
My honey is really the kindest most gentle and caring man EVER. And no, he’s not perfect. But God is showing me all over again what love is. The past few weeks I’ve been struggling with this. Have you read all these great amazing stories and ideas and things that people say to do on Valentines day? “Keep the romance alive,” type stuff? Ya, that can be pretty depressing this time of year for me. BUT it dosn’t have to be!
And God reminds me AGAIN that my focus is all off. Instead of wishing my hubby was like so and so with his romantic ideas, God points me to Scripture:
1 Cor 13:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails.
And THAT my friends is what we NEED. Romance isn’t even used ONCE in God’s Word! I checked! Again, the world has had an effect on my perspective on what a healthy relationship is, and it’s not been good. God says LOVE is where it’s at. And believe me, my husband LOVES me. When my focus is right, and I see the Scriptural love that my husband has for me, the many times that he does what I want instead of what he wants. The times when he comes home from work so tired, but still sits and asks me how my day was. The times when he tells me to go out for lunch with a girlfriend because he just knows how happy that makes me. My husband loves me more than I thought was possible!
Does he ROMANCE me? Surprise me with poems and songs and red hearts and murmurings of his feelings? um, NO. But where it’s important?! He is a PRINCE and I am the most blessed girl out there that he picked me!
NOW, that God has shown me TRUTH, I can go and do the little things my husband loves, no matter how much he protests! He DOES love it when I surprise him, and whisper sweet nothings, and write love notes to him! Now that I know him better, I can see it in his eyes, they way they crinkle up a bit when he’s happy. It’s the little things that matter to him.
My plan? I went out and bought a bunch of balloons to attach sweet notes to, I was gonna stick them in his truck so he finds them when he gets up in the morning, but with the cold weather here, they will just shrivel up, I’m sure! lol 😀 So my plan is to attach them to the chair he sits at while he drinks his morning coffee… shhh, don’t tell, I want to surprise him! 😀 I am also going to get dressed up in his favorite dress. Every year for our anniversary I ask him what he wants me to wear, what is his favorite, and I always wear it, so I know which dress it is, it’s the one I wore for our ‘going away’ dress after the wedding 🙂 And yep! I still (again) fit into it!
It’s about GIVING not receiving, and as I consider my Lord Jesus Christ and all He is getting in return for His great sacrifice, certainly I can give a little without feeling so needy for something in return!
So, what are YOU going to give this year to your special someone?
Happy Valentines season friends! I pray that above all, you are blessed with the knowledge of how very much the Creator God, King of the universe, Almighty, Righteous God loves YOU!
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